My Family Meltdown at Family Yogaby Clarissa Adkins | More from this Blogger 22 Jan 2007 11:14 AM I thought I would share my teaching struggle with other parents who teach their children. Although, I'm not usually teaching my child because he goes to public school, I did have him in the Family Yoga class that I taught yesterday. I'll start by saying that I truly respect parents who can patiently teach, coach or lead a group of kids that includes one of their own. If anyone knows what the behavioral meltdown that occurs in this situation is called, I would love to know. Something about being a yoga teacher makes me superimpose this idea that I'm supposed to be all patient. I guess my son picked up on this and tested my resolve for what is usually a very short half an hour of Family Yoga. Parents and their children, of at least 4 years of age, are invited to come. The class focuses on some of the animal poses like Cat, Cow, Monkey and other interesting ones like Tree and Triangle. I also bring the balance ball out and let them roll around and stretch on it. I usually enjoy teaching it as much as the kids seem to enjoy taking it. Even though my son was exclaiming, "Cool!" and "I like this pose!" throughout the class, he also made a point to provide comments at other times - the whole time. He also fell onto one of the adult students a couple of times because he likes to pretend fall. How could I be losing control of the class? I was distracted by his constant interruptions. Usually, I enjoyed introducing the children to all of the fun poses. This time I was wondering how I could have raised a child to be so misbehaved. What goes through their minds when their parents are teaching? Are they nervous or embarrassed? I know that my son is capable of much better behavior. I have seen him at Cub Scout meetings and in his classroom. He's not the model attentive student, but he's not usually the worst either. I would love to hear from parents who have seen their child go from moderate to maniac as soon as they went from parent to teacher. Here are some related articles that I found helpful: Dealing with Behavior Problems in Public How to Quiet Your Little Chatterbox An Easy Solution to Attention-Seeking Behavior Learn more about Clarissa Adkins  Clarissa is a wife and mother, a yoga instructor and a freelance writer. She most recently has moved back to her home state of Virginia. Relevantfitness tags weight loss | parenting | ideas | holidays | family | relationships | Food | Kids | children | pregnancy User Comments  Ladyharrison (138) 22 Jan 2007 10:39 AMOh I so enjoyed your post I wore a smile the whole time writing my response.. I'm going thought this with my 9 year old son. The doctor thinks he has a a disorder. I think this child just hates me. He is good many other places then home. What is it with him that needs to make us both look like buttheads in the mist of company or out. We when to a Charity hockey game with my boyfriend and his family last weekend and my son was beside him self. I thought cool the kids will love this "the boys will think cool" boy was I wrong. It was anything but he stood in the back of the chairs repeating how much he disliked this He created such a fuss, I wanted to crawl under my chair. I thought can't you just behave and be blood grateful. No kids are not born with the pregrace we learn as adults. when kids are not cool with something they don't have the good grace to fake it. We teach then to be honest... lol and to walk and talk too. That were we when wrong. My heart goes out to you...We can love then dearly even when we see there little monster :D My Boyfriends dad said something wonderful. They really are being fairly good. I smiled and knew the answer to why there kids never did anything wrong. What a great man :) From Ladyharrison  Clarissa Adkins (231) 22 Jan 2007 12:51 PMThanks Ladyharrison! I guess I'm not the only one. Good luck with yours!  Lessly (57396) 22 Jan 2007 02:02 PMYour Ds is the same age as mine! I'll tell you boys can be like this ...Esp at this age... Do you take him to your class all the time? If so you could refuse to take him next time. It sounds like he enjoys the class so it would make a suitable punishment. What I do with our DS when he is like this is give him a warning...ask him what his punishment should be if he doesn't listen (an appropriate one) and follow through with it when he continues the behaviour. This has helps tremendously. He knows we are serious when we give him a warning and Usually behaves. Clarissa Adkins (231) 22 Jan 2007 06:28 PMThanks Lessly. He doesn't come to class all the time, but he does listen if I give him a warning. It's difficult though when everyone is watching to see how you'll discipline your child. I should have set up a system before we got to class instead of trying to deal with the whole thing on the spot. Keep me posted on your approaches. :)  mcmama (51978) 22 Jan 2007 09:23 PMThis was a given when I was doing family child care, because my kids were sharing their mom and their home. It helped to give them a private spot and some alone time together. I also encountered this when I helped out in cub scouts - my very own webelo was the one who kept interrupting the project and the instructions. I think there is just something about "this mom belongs to me" when they misbehave like that. I wonder if Dads have this too? Clarissa Adkins (231) 23 Jan 2007 11:31 AMHi Janet! Your response rang true. I've seen kids do this with their parents (mom or dad), but somehow that doesn't help when it's happening to you. I've start a thread on this at http://forums.families.com/need-advice-my-son-acts-out-when-i-teach,t101988 so we can continue the discussion. Discuss this article
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